Today, my Blissfully Domestic post went live. Instead of requiring an extra click (because it's Friday and we are all tired), I'm just posting the whole thing here. I write for the health section had have been doing a series about food addiction. However, this month, I struck out on another path and wanted to share it with you. A lot of this came from the responses from my Simple Pleasures link-up about my legs. Hope you enjoy it!
How Do You See You?
Pimples. Cellulite. Flab. Wrinkles. A gray hair. What do you see when you first look in the mirror? Do the negative attributes jump out first? Do you rush to lament the extra five pounds you gained? Do you stress about the number of lines that appear on your forehead or the gray hairs that seemed to have eluded the last root touch-up? Do you throw up your hands in frustration because no matter how much you exercise or how little you weigh, those little dimples never go away?
Choose to See What’s Right
Recently, it occurred to me that every time I looked in the mirror, what came to my mind first was the bad and the ugly, never the good. It is ever so easy to find my flaws and to strategize on how I might be able to fix them. With all the negativity taking up precious brain matter, it doesn’t leave much room for appreciation of what is good, of what is lovely. The fuss over the “fixing” crowds out the opportunity to take pleasure in the imperfect. When I look at the mirror, I can choose to focus on the cellulite that appears on the fronts of my thighs. I can turn around, view my backside, and tremor at the sight of jiggles. Or, at the onset of these fixations, I can choose to see what is right with my body. I can flex my calves and see the muscular curvature. I can lean in close to the mirror and admire the golden flecks that sparkle from eyes. I can be grateful because my heart still beats, my lungs still take in air without a struggle, and my legs still enable me to run far distances.
Media vs. Reality
When we look in the mirror, we need not to juxtapose ourselves with media images of perfection. We can come to a mental place where we no longer use it as our measuring stick. We do this by choosing to find joy in what we like about ourselves. When I learn to see the pleasurable and lovely things in the mirror, my self-talk changes. When my self-talk changes, I have the power to project a positive self-image, which is good for me and for my daughters, who constantly absorb my words and actions. I’m sure my daughters would agree that I am no super model. However, the fact that I don’t complain about my weight or my pimples or the wrinkles that grace my face, shows them that it is quite acceptable to not be a super model. There is something lovely about each of us. There is something of beauty to celebrate in everyone. Teaching ourselves, and the generations that follow us, to recognize this allows us to shirk the media images, to live healthy lives, and to live out who we are created to be.
I'm linking up with Rachel Anne's Home Sanctuary and Michelle at Lost in the Prairies! Come see all the wonderful women there.
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