Tuesday, January 11, 2011

The Captivating Shoulds

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I've been taken captive by the SHOULDS.

I'm sure you've met them.  If you haven't seen them, you've certainly heard them.  They say things like...

You should keep your house clean so that if someone stops by unexpectedly, you won't feel embarrassed.
You should only feed your children things that are organic.
You should get all your work done before you even THINK of relaxing.
You should run for P.T.A. president.
You should pray more.
You should make sure you are exercising at least three times a week, for at least 30 minutes at a time.
You should make sure you look presentable before your husband comes home.
You should read your Bible.  Every. Single. Day.
You should play with your children more often.

There are lots of things we should do, because, in all honesty, a lot of them are actually good for us.  But when I am motivated by doing them just because of the SHOULD part, I think I might miss the JOY behind doing them.

If I'm just reading the Bible because I SHOULD, is my heart really open to receiving His Word?
If I'm always working and never relaxing, can I ever really hope to have an authentic amount of energy?
If I only play with my children because it's the expected thing to do, am I really discovering who they are?  Am I really focused on building that relationship?
If I'm doing something just to impress someone else, has my life become more about me and less about Him?  What kind of void am I filling by seeking so readily worldly affirmation?
If I'm just praying because I should, how meaningful are those prayers?  How much do they touch the heart of God?

I'm trying to tune out the SHOULDS in my life right now, to severe the connection between them and my heart.  I long to be tugged by the whispers of my Savior instead of pulled into a pit by the yells of the world.  If I remained chained to the SHOULDS, I won't have the freedom to explore the will of God.

I'm linking up to Tiffini for Word Women Wednesday!

7 comments :

  1. My husband and I have tried to completely stop saying "should." It is a very hard ingrained habit. But we keep working at it.

    Fondly,
    Glenda

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  2. Do you know that this is a word I do not use? Amazing isn't it? I want to do because I am led by His Spirit to do...because I know that it what He wants.

    Otherwise...I let it go and live simply and in the moment.

    blessings....Maria

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  3. WOW, this is a great post. I am still living in the "should" life at times. I need to start praying and asking God to deliver me from that.

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  4. Excellent insight, Jen! I wrote a related post in October but yours is far deeper.
    http://janicejohnson.wordpress.com/2010/10/11/frozen-in-time/
    (if you want to check it out)

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  5. "I long to be tugged by the whispers of my Savior instead of pulled into a pit by the yells of the world. If I remained chained to the SHOULDS, I won't have the freedom to explore the will of God." Well said!

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  6. I should color my grays today...
    I should do my Shred workout...
    I should go to the store...

    All things I used to enjoy. Now they have all turned into chores. Thanks for the insight!

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  7. YOU are so spot on with this. I think we are cut out of the same mold:)
    I struggle with the same thing...God's grace is helping me take the steps to severe the cords...Praying for you...and me:)
    xo

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