Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Simple Pleasures: Tears


Many of you know that I lost my grandmother to cancer on Easter Sunday of 2010.  This was my first Christmas without her.

It hurt.

But you know, God has a way of working through people in just the right way where somehow hope filters through the pain.

I received a gift Christmas morning from "BCM".  It was my husband's handwriting, and per our tradition, we never place our real names on the "from" line when we are giving to our family members.  We always make up some clue that gives the receiver some sort of mysterious hint as to what may lay behind the wrappings.

I should have been more clued-in, but I'm blaming the ruckus of children and the lack of caffeine in my system as to why I didn't get the hint.  For the life of me, I couldn't figure it out.  BCM?

I slowly unwrapped the package.  Inside, a Willow Tree box.  Inside, a figurine, entitled With my Grandmother.

BCM.

Betty Carson Miner.

My beloved grandmother.

Tears of pain.  Tears of remembrance.  Tears of missing.  Tears of joy.  Tears of knowing that she was looking down right at that moment.  Tears that say nothing, but say everything, all at the same time.

Sometimes, it is a simple pleasure, just to cry.

I'm linking up with Dayle at Simple Pleasures.
Project Simple Pleasures2

27 comments :

  1. That is such a thoughtful gift. I have tears too!

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  2. Oh, Jen, I have always thought that tears were the best dose of medicine in the world. I have certainly shed my share of them and have a feeling that I have many more to come in the years ahead.

    Bless you dear!

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  3. Jen, Your husband is beautiful -- what a lovely, thoughtful gift. I know your missing...I felt the same way this Chritmas. God heals, doesn't He?

    BTW, I just read your guest post over at Tiffini's place. I tried to leave a comment about how much I admire your courage in writing so honestly (and your husband's to), but I don't think my comment appeared -- so I'm saying it here, now -- that was an awesome post!

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  4. I love, love, love this. I have looked at that figurine several time and just love it. I am so glad your husband could do that for you. A special remembrance...to remind you even in the pain there is beauty.

    <3

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  5. Jen, what a bittersweet post and such a wonderfully unique simple pleasure. And I couldn't agree more. Sometimes it is a simple pleasure just to cry. I always say God gave us the ability to cry for a reason. It really can help.

    So sorry for your loss. Grandmothers are so special.

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  6. Jen - I agree, crying can be a simple pleasure...sometimes we cry with sadness, sometimes tears of laughter and joy. The precious memories we have of our departed loved ones are priceless.

    Blessings,
    Joan

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  7. Jen....That was a heartfelt post. And yes, it brought tears to my eyes, too. Nice job. Susan

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  8. I can't stop crying....

    Beautiful... special husband!

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  9. Beautifully written. Thanks for sharing such a special moment. So sorry for your loss.

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  10. Lots of tears today. My grandmama had a stroke Jan 1st. It is hard to not be there. I want to get in the car and go, but my husband needs me here right now. I pray for peace for her and my family. She is alert and oriented but unable to swallow, has developed pneumonia, and can't move her left side. Tough for a woman of 88 who has never even been hospitalized except to birth kids!

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  11. As always, Jen, you capture the ineffable. Bless you, my dear.

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  12. What a beautiful and thoughtful gift.

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  13. Oh Jen, I know how badly you hurt. I lost my grandmother 7 years ago. The first couple of Christmases without her were so hard. Your husband was so thoughtful and loving to buy this perfect gift for you to help you in your healing process.

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  14. Oh yes Jen - I know those tears too! Sometimes we just have to let them flow to heal :-)
    What a caring and beautiful thing for your hubby to do.
    God bless you..Trish

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  15. Jen...this is beautiful but sad too. To lose someone you love is really hard but that gift is a great reminder she will always live inside you. And sometimes a good cry is the best thing. ☺

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  16. What a beautiful moment you chose to share with us, thank you!

    (((hugs)))

    Visiting from SITS, great blog!

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  17. lovely post. i'm so sorry you don't have your special grandmother any more. i know those firsts are hard.

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  18. You have given me tears in MY eyes reading this.
    I very much understand the love for a grandmother and the LONGING to have her with me.

    What a wonderful, wonderful husband you have!!

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  19. Wow. I just started to cry from that. That is such a beautiful post.

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  20. What a beautiful, thoughtful, heartfelt gift! My heart melted reading about it. Your husband is a true blessing!

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  21. That was so thoughtful .... each time you pass this you can draw on the sweet memories of you and your grandmother

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  22. I think that is one tuned in husband. Special, and meaningful. I love it, makes me teary, I lost my grandma 2 years ago Easter time, her birthday is in a couple of days. I miss her so much! So, I get it, and I love how your husband acknowledges your sense of loss.

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  23. Oh my...I am sorry for your loss. But the memory of her lives within you until you see her again.

    What a promise to look forward to .

    Thank you for sharing..

    Maria -a housewife:)

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  24. You have a very thoughtful husband. The little figurine is beautiful.

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  25. That was incredible thoughtful, you must have quite the husband.

    Stopping by from sits.

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  26. What a beautiful, heart felt gift. I know you will treasure it. The first holidays after a loss are always the worst but she will always be with you.

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  27. I'm crying with you in sadness and joy. What a thought thing to do.

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