Monday, April 18, 2011

Reserve Battery Power & Soli Deo Gloria Party

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Yesterday, I grabbed my laptop, and upon it's waking, a warning popped up:

You are now running on reserve battery power.  Please plug your computer into an electrical outlet.  If you do not, your computer will shut down to preserve its memory.

Ha!  I need one of these same pop up batteries for my LIFE.  Perhaps it would read:

You have 3% battery power left in your tank.  Please lay down on the couch and stop working, cleaning, ministering, cooking, talking, writing, and yelling disciplining your children.  If you do not, your body will shut down to preserve whatever amount of sanity you have left.

So today, after a little pow-wow with my sweet husband, we figured out how to give me a few hours sans children to discipline so that I could actually engage in some sort of Sabbath.  I got to take a shower without any questions about the female anatomy.  I read the Sunday paper from start to finish without being asked to read every single funny on the comics page.  I caught up on my daily Bible readings without being asked for (yet another) glass of water.  I FELL ASLEEP!  (This almost never happens, for I am not a napper.)  And, upon arising from my short nap, I actually was in the mood to start dinner (cooking is so not my favorite thing -- I need some Big Fat Mama injections).  Amazing what a little recharging can do for a woman!

The deal is, though, I cannot let myself get to that 3% on a regular basis.  I have to be better about setting boundaries, about not trying to multi-task (parenting and working from home is decidedly difficult to do), and take time to breath.  I have no magical plan formed yet, but here are two things that I am going to try very hard to do in the coming weeks:

{1}  Spend time with my husband after the kids go to bed.  Normally, I try to squeeze in a few more hours of work, but you see, my husband is quite the funny guy.  When I'm with him, I stress less.  He's good for my soul.

{2}  Be intentional about the time I spend with my kids.  I lug around a lot of mommy-guilt trying to get all my work done, keep the house clean, clip coupons, etc. and always am afraid I'm leaving my kids hanging.  If I'm present when I'm with them, I think that will save me a lot of energy that currently goes down the guilt-drain.

Okay, enough of me.  Please go visit some other people that have some amazing things to say!  The linky is live until Wednesday at 9pm, CDT.

33 comments :

  1. Love it, and Saturday night fellowship did a lot to recharge my batteries. ;) Love you!

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  2. Jen,
    Oh, I need a battery image on my life too! Why do we always run ourselves down to nothing and then expect that we will still run?

    I hope you find time for #1! It's good for so many reason, and I always feel more in check when I'm spending a little time with the hubby.

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  3. Oh goodness - I could have written this post! I love the image of the low battery and yes, wouldn't such a warning be nice? I'm so glad you got a true Sabbath. I'm working on more of that myself. It is hard, but necessary! Thanks for the inspiration.

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  4. ha! love this analogy. plug in, sister.

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  5. love this post, Jen. Such a good analogy:) Glad you had some time to recharge.

    -Mel

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  6. Boundaries are difficult for us kindred spirits, no? Hilariously enough, I'm working on the same two...

    GOOD FOR YOU! I always know when He is telling me to rest.

    And now I hear Him telling me...

    Natalie at Mommy on Fire
    http://www.mommyonfire.com

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  7. Oh Jen, I remember those days. They happened so often, that I finally had to say...'stop!'. It took awhile, but J. and I were able to get a schedule down, were I was able to just rest for a bit.

    Thank you for sharing...

    Mrs. M.

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  8. Great analogy that rang true for me. I often think I have to keep going until I am on reserve battery power. I hope you are recharged more often in beautiful ways. <3

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  9. Those are both so very important! You will NEVER look back and say, "oh, I think I spent too much time focusing on my husband and children."

    My husband has been with JESUS since 1999 and my children are grown, with families. I tried to always be very intentional about time with my beloved soulmate and munchkins...wonderful memories.

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  10. Jen, I love it that you are so real, and give us so much to think about. I too needto be diong these things to recharge. I found that last week just spending some time outside staring into Jesus, was the best thing I could ever to to recharge the holiness i want to have in my life. Still on recharge mode...but pouring out as He calls me too...and will charge up as long as He needs me to...

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  11. Hi Jen, felt bad after reading your post. We have it easy in the Philippines, where we have helpers to do the cooking, cleaning, washing, etc. I can't imagine how you have time to do your blog, and other things you do for yourself. But I guess you have to schedule it. Even God put in time to rest!!!! Patsy from
    HeARTworks

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  12. Love this visual as I too have been running on 3% lately. Often reading or seeing a great illustration like this one, gives me the perspective I need and you did that today for me. Thanks!

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  13. I could have written this post SO many times!! I, too, have a great hubby who "gets" this and helps when the battery power is low. But it's never fun to find yourself there. You're right -- be intentional about taking care of yourself, too!

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  14. I was just with a group of young moms talking about how they couldn't possibly go on a women's retreat that didn't allow them to take their young children with them. I wanted to pull them aside and ask, "Do you understand the meaning of the word retreat?" As an old mom who wishes she'd learned earlier to unplug and rest--to sabbath--I say a hearty "Amen!" to this post. A mom is no good to anyone when running on empty. And if Jesus needed to get away for some solitary time with His Father...

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  15. Love, love this post Jen -- and the comments, too. I swear, I run on 3% about 80% of the time -- not good. I particularly need to focus on #1: I fear my husband gets short shrift around here. Thanks for the gentle prod!

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  16. When you find that battery alert let me know. Being a mom is hard and the pay isn't as obvious as some may think. I totally take advantage of those times when I get a break. Quiet times during the day are essential.

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  17. this is a tough one for a Momma and being a girl altogether. We are multi-taskers and WE CAN DO IT ALL AND ALL AT ONE TIME! But like you, if I would concentrate on one thing focus on that and move on it means much more and feels like it too. The kids, are more content the husband is more content and therefore makes us more content.

    I'm glad you found a few minutes to recharge.

    Love, Marlece

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  18. Ha! This made me laugh out loud. Obviously, you know I can relate. It took getting to life or death for me to make the right choices. Why oh why are we over-achiever, work-a-holic-types oh-so-stubborn?

    On a practical note, I recommend board games with your husband (like, a REAL game of Scrabble), and letting the clean house thing go. Kids first, house second. Everyone's happier, even though life does feel a little chaotic with a dirty house!

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  19. I'm with ya...and I also really want to be "all there" when with our kiddos...
    I appreciate this reminder to self-evaluate because it often takes a physical signal before I realize how low my battery actually is.
    I want to learn to listen and catch the warning signs earlier.

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  20. Oh Jen... talk about a great post! Yes, I think we could all use the battery warning! And being more intentional with all of our time.
    Love it!

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  21. As you know, it has been awhile since i have visited...as usual God has us on a similar journey. i don't want to admit it, but in doing "GOOD", I sometimes grow weary. What a joy to see the changes on your blog and your growing followers!! It reminds me that God is Faithful and in going "GOOD" (putting Him first) we will reap His fruit. He gives us all we need!
    xo

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  22. I love the analogy of low computer battery! Yes, we do need recharging. I need to rethink the Sabbath. Just today, my husband and I were talking about one-on-one time with each other and with each of the children and how they/we need that.

    I like your new profile picture -- I noticed it on my blog & wondered who is that new follower and realized it was you with a new picture!

    I always appreciate your insights and even the freedom not to visit everyone on the linky list and to pray about where to spend my time! Brilliant! Thanks for the reminder to dot that with every little thing!

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  23. I know what you mean. It's all a balancing act! I think the important thing is priorities, perspective, and trying your best to stick with it!

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  24. Hi Jen,
    This is my first time linking up with you, and the linky thing glitched and told me to start over because my photo was too large. So I did, and now I'm here twice. So sorry!

    As a homeschool mom who juggles writing, laundry, and two wayward pets, I can totally relate to being intentional. It's a constant juggling, asking the Lord for wisdom every moment.

    Blessings!

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  25. Yep. I remember those days. The part about taking a shower without questions about female anatomy made me laugh out loud. My kids are adults now,and I still have to remind myself that it's OK to use the lock on the bathroom door. :)

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  26. I laughed the other day when I was at Staples. They have a section for momma's...calendars & organizers!! that ought to tell us something yes? I'm fist pumping right now for you..ok I have a 16 year old. what can i say? this is so what I think He would have us do. your sweet encouragement is holding arms up you know? I will learn from you this week...
    xoxo

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  27. Missed you while I was away. Glad you had a "true" Sabbath. I'm afraid that way too many folks are running on "low battery." Very good post! Easter blessings!

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  28. Jen ~ 47 link ups. . . isn't that cool. You are cool and God is cooler.

    Fondly,
    Glenda

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  29. Thank you for that. I am a single parent and I run close to 3% everyday. Wondering, am I doing enough? Am I there enough? I do the best I can and always second guess myself. That is, until I go to God and sit with Him a while and then He lets me know that HE is enough. Everything else doesn't compare! When I need to get plugged in, I need to remember who created it all anyway! Thanks for letting me know I am not alone!

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  30. I"m so glad you extended your linky time! Such grace, Jen. This community charges my batteries :). Have a blessed day.

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  31. Oh, I can so relate!! I have been on the computer less ... but with my family more -- intentional time with them, that is. I don't like that I haven't been able to write as much BUT I'm trying to choose what is best. ...and still trying to figure out how to get some of the much needed space to breath and recharge.

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  32. You are on the right track. How sweet of your husband to help figure it out.

    Thank you again for hosting Soli de Rosa. Sometimes it takes me all week to get through them all, but they are such an encouragement to me. God uses them to "discipline" me at times, too.

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