Sunday, August 14, 2011

Saying Thanks on an Ordinary Day

It was just the two of us.

A rare moment alone, when we could speak in full sentences (paragraphs, even!) without interruption.  A time when we could pause to ponder and not lose the train of thought.  Two hours when we could really see each other.

As the kids played on The Plaza with my cousins, my husband and I sat on a rooftop deck, drinks in hand, relishing every tick of the clock.  And it was in those moments, moments that he heard me, moments that he spoke to my heart, moments when loved rushed through me just by looking into his eyes, that I experienced a sense of gratitude that I had not felt in a very long time.

Kids posing for photos for my cousins.
We have been married for eleven years, but it was this time, sitting on the deck, peering out through the green, leafy trees, that I felt as though we had just met.  I was transported to that time of new wonder, of butterfly excitement, of an intentionality that just seems to fade sometimes as the years pass on.

The gratitude welled inside me like an undiscovered spring, thanking God that He knew what was best, that He is a sustainer, that He is alive and well in our union.

I love him.
I love Him.
He loves Him.

Something majestic in this triangle of love.  Something so honorable and so pleasing.  While there is not perfection, there is a love that passes all understanding.  We daily have to work on this 1 Corinthians 13 type of love, but in the moments when I see the fruit of all this hard work, when I can sit back and revel in mystery of it, when I can let it wash over me like a refreshing wave, I am buoyed beyond measure.

A simple thank you to my husband, on this ordinary day, weeks after this precious date.  Thank you for all that you are and all that you do.

Thank you for loving me.
Thank you for loving our children.
Thank you for loving Him.

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  1. Beautiful, Jen. And let me just say, as you have already discovered, after almost 20 years of marriage we have found it is so imperative (and most of the time seemingly impossible) to find those moments together where nothing else is let interruptions, no mommy duties, no other thoughts...just the two of you re-discovering and cherishing and loving and finding. Glad you found a moment this week :) Blessings on your marriage...all 11 years and many many more to come. xoxo

  2. I am so touched by your post. I hope all couples are like you and your husband.

    God bless. :-)

  3. What a sweet moment, Jen.


  4. So wonderfully, perfectly sweet, Jen. And you know inspire me to get closer to my husband (it's easy to fall into that habitual distance in the rush of daily life, isn't it?). We celebrate 14 years of marriage this week -- I can't think of a better time to rekindle that deep one-to-one connection!

  5. I love this, Jen, and I know your husband will too.

    I've been married to my guy for 26 years, and this summer we started "dating" again. It had just been way too long since we had had regular times alone, so we re-instituted date night. It has been really, really good for us. Really good. :)

  6. So beautifully said, Jen! My husband and I have been married 33 years, and it is God's love working in us that has made it last. A cord of three strands is not easily broken. Blessings to you!

  7. That was beautiful, Jen. It is so important to have those times to really Love our husbands. I have been married for almost 25 years now and it becoming more and more important as our kids are moving on.

  8. Sounds like a perfect day, good for you.

  9. I understand. I thank God every day for Matt, but thank you for reminding me to thank Matt as well.

  10. Wonderful! When God is at the center of a marriage, it is awesome! Love how you shared this with us! Patsy from

  11. When we have moments like that, we remind each other that the deep love is always there, even on those hectic days when life gets in the way and we don't see it as clearly.
    Bless you two; lovely photo!

  12. This is so beautiful and so well captured. I know the more I live and love my hubby the more I am so grateful for the man God gave me to share my life journey. Thank you for helping me praise the Lord this morning!

  13. The two of you are so beautiful together. Taking these deliberate pauses--I have found it deepens our love. But then, so does living in the trenches. But it is the pause that solidifies, allows us to process what we've been building together. Such a beautiful post, Jen.

  14. it is in the ordinary that the thank you's seem to mean the most..

  15. Beautiful. My husband is working on his doctorate, teaching online in addition to his administration full time work. It makes the times together more precious. My parents still date after 56 years. The devil likes to use the busyness of life to drive a wedge into relationships. I refuse to allow it to happen. Thankfully God is on my side with that!

  16. What is it that people say? EVERY DAY...(ordinary ones too) a gift!

  17. What joyful pictures! Happy Anniversary:) My husband and I just celebrated very close to the same setting where you did on the Plaza. I remember sharing with a friend one time when I felt my husband and I were too often frustrated with one another--she said, "I bet you're dating enough." Sure thing. Every time we have focused time together it reminds me of all the good. Love the way you expressed the good here.

  18. These moments are precious and to be savored like good milk chocolate.

  19. This was so sweet, it left me smiling! And I love that picture. What a wonderful date you had. May you have many more.

  20. That was very sweet. Thank you for sharing your love note. It was intimate and encouraging. God Bless, Jackie


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