Thursday, October 27, 2011

Nourishment: Beginning with "No"

Have you ever just craved nourishment?  How do you get it physically, emotionally, spiritually?  Because I have these questions and I want answers, I've asked a series of people to come in and share how they find nourishment.  Will you come along for the journey?  We will meet here every Thursday until the posts  run out.  Have something to share about nourishment?  Contact me and we will set a date!  
Meet Daniele.  I met her recently, when she asked if she could contribute to this series. And I'm so glad that she asked because now that I know her and visit her place, I have another space in which to find nourishment (really, the moment you enter her blog, you just want to rest).  I pray that you are nourished as you soak up her words.  Here is Daniele...

{Thank you Jen for the opportunity to share words and thoughts on this journey of nourishment :: a practice so necessary for us all.}
How many times do I wish I had simply answered ‘no’?  Or at least ‘not now’ breadth and room for an intentional,
and not simply an emotional response?
To pause and listen, to wait on counsel, to ask of Him.
How many times have you?
We humans have this strange and often unexplainable capacity to overwhelm ourselves.  Over and over, decisions we make clutter life with fullness that does not feed.  And we stand empty-handed, spent and lacking, frustrated and disappointed.
Then we firmly resolve to ‘never again’, only to find we did it again.  Sigh.  I’ve lived this cycle one time too many.
In the midst however, there is hope.  A movement towards life abundant.
Nourishment begins with ‘No’.
There is incredible value in the practice of boundaries, in the walking of life with clear expectations.  An understanding of how the resources of time, focus and energy are to benefit and not deplete us. 
In my own personal journey of seeking nourishment, I am repeatedly struck however with the need for not only external organization -- figuring out schedules, clearing house, weighing opportunities, taking time for refreshment...
...but to seriously evaluate internal motivations of why I choose to live malnourished in the first place.  In the past year especially, I’ve wondered.  Do I feel I don’t deserve it?  Why don’t I act on what is known to be good for me?  Perhaps it’s a simply a time issue? -- but, not really, since hours are given to things of lesser importance.
I have made one observation in particular :: I can declutter my home, strip the schedule, journal regularly, study Scriptures and exercise faithfully and still be left clanging like a cymbal.
It’s true -- I’ve seen it.  Sometimes I’ve lived it.
I offer today that nourishment should be approached not just in the doing of specifics, but in the knowing of just why we should.  Think of approaching caring for mind and body with the deep conviction that we are loved.  Showered lavishly by One who delights in our goals of feeling well, living well, being well.
These are also His plans for those He loves.
He too is eager, determined even, for our best to shine.  I believe we find tremendous favor in seeking to live intentionally within this back-and-forth love relationship with God.  This knowing provides inspiration for our nourishment practices to find root.  The more convinced I’ve become that He wants this for me too, I choose nourishment over living in lack.
I only offer suggestions, not prescriptions.  The ways we seek to nourish are as numerous as individuals who pursue its path.
But today...
with the purpose of welcoming deeper ways of caring for self...consider saying ‘no’.
A resounding ‘No!’ to any feeling, any question, 
any distraction or any mentality
that would rob of living fully in the reality of God’s incredible love for us.  Let this conviction then feed our heart motivation to live life well!

To read more of Daniele and to subscribe to/follow her blog, Domestic Serenity,please click here.


  1. Hi, Daniele, thank you for sharing. There is an epidemic of busy, overwhelmed women going on. This is the fourth or fifth post I've read in the last few weeks that talks about it. I keep sending them to my best friend, who, like me, just needs to hear this. It's so good to know we are not alone!

  2. Very timely post for me to read. I am coming off quite an intense friend and family time - all good but crazy. The idea of boundaries is so true and I was blessed to be able to put up boundaries around this week to regroup, refresh and just plain rest. Thank you for such great thoughts to ponder today

  3. it took me so many years to realize that it is okay to say no. even to good things. finding our purpose in him instead of others' desires and expectations is hard, but necessary. and i have to remind myself again and again. thanks for this beautifully-written reminder!

  4. Thanks everyone! It's a process, a journey...
    may we all keep growing and learning.

  5. My preacher explained it so well recently. In John 15 Jesus says He is the true vine. When we are rooted deep in Him, in His love, the nutrients from Him fill us up. How do we remain in His love? Read all about how much He loves us in his Word, and in prayer. :)

  6. Daniele, this is so simple and SO powerful! Thank you for sharing your insights. May we all live fully in the reality of God's incredible love for us.

  7. "Consider saying ‘no’.
    A resounding ‘No!’ to any feeling, any question,
    any distraction or any mentality
    that would rob of living fully in the reality of God’s incredible love for us."

    I think this quote summerizes the beauty and simplicy of your post. Thank you for sharing your heart with us today.

  8. Once I learned to say no...I said it a lot. Every time it left my mouth, I became stronger. Saying no gave me a grip on a life I was losing grip of. I quit taking care of every body else and started taking care of me (which at the time, was long overdue). Nowadays, I find that I tell myself no more than I do other people. God has made many changes in my life but the "old me" likes to pop up every now and then to try and lure me back to bad habits. I say a prayer for God to help me and then we say no together. It definitely helps me live more fully with God...and with myself.

  9. Thanks for introducing me to Danielle. This piece really resonates with me. Saying "no" is hard, but makes sense when we think about nourishment and just why we should be doing things. I feel better already . . .


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