Friday, February 17, 2012


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Surprise and delight, he says.

He has gotten it.  I've just finished telling him that I've realized that I don't really know how I receive love.  I've told him that I'm through with the scales and the balancing and the living constrained.  I'm throwing caution to the wind in order to finally live a life loved.

Surprise and delight.  I carry these words in my heart and I wonder if it is really possible to live a life unrestrained, where delight is just a wink away.  It's hard to feel delighted when someone gives you a gift and you immediately start to weigh it against what you've done, what you've given, and whether you truly think you deserve it.

Delight comes without strings.
Delight comes in those peels of unrestrained laughter, often heard coming up from the bellies of small children.
Delight comes with rejoicing.
Delight comes with swooning.
Delight comes wrapped up in amazing packages, packages not filled with material things, but packages packed full of the important gestures of the heart.
Delight comes in the overflow.

Surprise and delight.  Doesn't that sound scrumptious?

Last night on the couch, we make a list.  We make a list of how we would feel loved and how we aim to love each other.  Tangible things here.  And now, we are on a mission, this husband of mine and I.  A mission to fill each other's cups at random moments within the day, within the months, within the year.

Surprise and delight is just a wink away.

Linking with the Gypsy Mama for 5 Minute Friday.

And with Michelle for Caffeinated Randomness.


  1. love this! I think it can be done, and that we can teach ourselves by remaining open to find these moments, this delight. Even if just for a matter of seconds in every day.

  2. love this! and hope you ENJOY your marathon this weekend.

  3. "Delight is in the overflow"! LOVE IT!
    I've missed reading your blog lately! Saw you were have a conference; sure wish I were close to TX! ;)

  4. I love it. I love that he's doing this with you. What a gift and amazing journey God has you on!

  5. "overflow" is the perfect word to describe delight!
    Thanks for stopping by to say hi this week. It feels good-delightful even-to be missed. I miss you and SDG. :(

  6. Oh, my, I do this: "It's hard to feel delighted when someone gives you a gift and you immediately start to weigh it against what you've done, what you've given, and whether you truly think you deserve it." Thank you for sharing your heart on this, Jen.

  7. "Delight comes without strings." I love this and that this is how God delights in us ... I'm with you on your journey of learning to receive love...Thanks, Jen and have a blessed weekend :)

  8. I really like the header of your blog. Are you the artist?

    1. I am! Thank you for your sweet words.

    2. oh, I can't believe I've never thought to invite such a list--a list of what would make my husband feel delightfully loved. Love the idea. When my man returns from Honduras, I'll sit him down and listen well.

  9. IT's a funny thing.. I feel like the more we apply those things (you named in the list/bullet points)... the more we will find it easier to delight AND to be delighted in.
    What do you say?
    Loved reading it... love pondering your thoughts!

  10. I love this!! I love that the two of you are doing this together. Working on your marriage and strengthening your love!! Awesome!!

  11. Mmmm. Surprise and delight sound yummier than a warm, fresh homemade muffin!

    We make lists all the time, so this ought to be a natural extension of those to-do's. It's not though, unfortunately. (Guilty here. :-) )

    It is all about purposely loving your spouse and filling their buckets to overflowing. I just love the image of the two of you creating and sharing these lists, these intimate secrets that may include things we never saw as part of intimacy when we were newlyweds: "I feel loved when you take out the trash, vacuum the house, clean up after little Johny threw up in his bed, etc", lol.

    There is a great book called "How full is your bucket" in an adult and child version that covers positive strategies for your life.

    Really enjoyed your sharing. What a great model for us ladies who often have difficulty receiving!

  12. yes, yes, and yes! one of the things we heard not too long ago at a marriage conference was to spend our days trying to "outbless" one another. not in an artificial way, but in these ways you speak of. . . knowing the other's needs and desires and truly and authentically attempting to bless them throughout the day. in that manner, it is much easier to get outside of being so me-focused all of the time. and as a result, i am truly "surprised and delighted" many times throughout the day! it is a good place to be. i think you'll like it :-)
    great post, jen!

  13. Love it! Surprise and delight...that's another way to show Christ's love to others...and in turn, we will be blessed!

  14. I like the idea of each us making a list of how we would feel loved. When I brought up the idea to my husband we realized his list would be very short and mine may not end!


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