Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Break the Tape: Choose to Get Out of Bed

Welcome, friends, for today's edition of Break the Tape.  Essentially, our goal is to identify the lies that repeat themselves over and over again in our minds, break the tape that automatically begins plays when ever we feel we've fallen short, and learn a new song to sing in its place.  
Meet Eileen.  Oh, I'm sure you've seen her around.  She's the one who can write just 3 words and somehow, it will touch your heart so deeply that you didn't even realize you went that deep.  I've had the honor of meeting her in person and someday, I'm going to crash her house (because I love her and because she lives near the beach!)
I've come to refer to my 20s as my "stupid years".   Now, I am not making any generalizations about twenty-somethings.  As a woman who is pushing 40, some of the smartest people I know today happen to fall into this twenty-something category. I marvel over both the wise words they say and write and the good directional choices they are making in their life at such an early age.

However, when I was in my 20s, there was one lie that would replay in my head after each not-so-good choice I would make.

You made your bed...now you have to lie in it.

It's very cliche and yet I silently repeated it to myself over and over.  My 20s were a time in my life when I moved from one mistake to the next. This tape proved to be an incredibly effective way of keeping me from making more positive choices in my life.

During the time when I said those words to myself, I might as well have been hitting myself with a baseball bat.  I didn't admit it then, but this is what I was really telling myself:  If I beat myself up sufficiently for my choices, if I am miserable enough, then somehow I can make things right. I deserve this.  I have to be punished.

Here's a quote I love from Seth Godin "If you think you have no choice but to do what you do now, you've already made a serious error."

I've come to understand, that at the root of my "poor me I deserve to be miserable" attitude was one overriding emotion: Fear

Even though I was far from being comfortable during this season in my life, my misery was familiar.  The idea of making a different choice terrified me.

However, the only way to experience the freedom I was really searching for in my life, was to make the choice to walk through that fear.

And you know what?  It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.  I was uncomfortable and  I was "out of control"...or rather my perceived control.

You want to know something else?  It turned out to be the most incredible journey I have ever taken in my life.  I grew in ways I never thought I could.

When I made the choice to step out into the scary, God met me there.  He took my hand and we walked through it together.

What is one scary choice you need to make today?
Grab hold of His hand today and trust Him despite your fear.


About Eileen:
Eileen Knowles is a small town Arizona girl who studied English at The University of Arizona a long, long time ago. She now lives in small town North Carolina with her husband, Roger, their eight-year old son, and one quirky dog named Bisbee.

When she is not working part-time loving on animals at the local animal hospital, she thoroughly enjoys drinking coffee, running, playing Scrabble, leading Women's Bible Study at her church, and writing about how cool it is to journey through life with Jesus holding her hand.

Eileen is passionate about leaving a legacy for her son and encouraging others along the way who might need a dose of hope poured into their weary lives. You can find her taking The Scenic Route atwww.eileenknowles.com.

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Twitter: twitter.com/cupojoegirl


Linking with Emily for Imperfect ProseJennifer for God Bumps, and Shanda for On My Heart.

20 comments :

  1. Eileen, I can hear my own tape right now... those words that kept me in my own self-made prison with no bars. My theme this year is choosing Faith over fear... because you can't have both! I know if I'm living in fear than I do not have Faith, but if I have Faith... I'm not afraid. It's amazing the peace we can have when we grab a hold of His hand and trust. We imagine what peace would feel like in our craziness, but we cannot truly know God's peace until we take the leap! Thanks, great post!

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  2. A "self-made" prison. That's what it is, isn't it Heidi! And you are so correct. We experience His peace when we step out in faith. Thanks, Heidi

    PS: For some reason can never get my Wordpress account to link to comments here Jen...using my old google account instead

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  3. "When I made the choice to step out into the scary, God met me there." Well said and I can relate. great post!

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  4. Thanks, Loraine. And, it seems with each new unknown we have to relearn this again and again. :)

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  5. Great encouragement to step out in faith and obedience!

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  6. Jen, thanks again for the opportunity to share today!

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  7. this feels much like my late teens and early twenties...i def lived in a self made prison...nice bit of encouragement in this...

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  8. So true; I never thought of it this way. It's one thing to acknowledge your sin or other poor choices, but quite another to pull the covers up to your chin and wallow in them. Your words have helped me today!

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    1. That's right...wallowing isn't productive. :)

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  9. Great Post Eileen...thanks for the encouragement:) Feeling like I'm 'stepping out into the scary' lately with publishing my novel and other things. Timely....

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    1. That's great, Lorna! Keep moving forward. :)

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  10. I had to laugh at your "stupid years". Those were mine as well but THANKFUL I got saved when I was just turning 28 - I was still rather stupid for a few years after that and like you I lived in a bubble of fear but God has delivered me! hallelujah! Great post today!

    http://theemptynestexpress.com

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    1. "a bubble of fear" well said. It feels good to pop that bubble!

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  11. hey now. i'm 28 :) :) stepping out into the scary will be a life long lesson for me i think!

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    1. Haha! Like I said, some of the wisest people I know today fall into this age group...I just wasn't one of them. :) And you are so right, it is a life long lesson!

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  12. Strong words, Eileen ... for women of all ages.

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  13. powerful and empowering, eileen. thank you.

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  14. Eileen, I admire what you have shared here. It is not an easy thing to break free from that tape. I think it's a hard one to stop listening to because so many people say it about others regularly. Even if it is never said directly to you, the thought is there and you know. God bless you as you continue on the journey!

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