Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Close Enough to Forget: Live Big. Love Big.

About this series:  We all need encouragement, to be reminded we matter. Sometimes the nearest and dearest to us get the least of that needed encouragement. We've all spread ourselves too thin at times leaving little reserved for the ones we've committed to give to most, our spouse. So we're going to do something about it. We're going to focus on the ones living right under our own roof, sleeping in our own bed. But no worries if you're spouse-free. You can apply the encouragement to someone in your life who needs it: children, co-workers, friends, family members. Any soul will do because we all long to know we are seen and heard. Wherever you see "spouse," substitute someone else's name.  So grab a cup of coffee or whatever it is you're drinking today, and get ready to give a little. You'll be glad you did.
Today my partner in this series, Close Enough to Forget, is posting.  Lori has been SO MUCH FUN to hang out with and develop this new run of guest posts.  Here's a little teaser and then you can head over there and leave her some comment love.

It's hard to believe I have been married for 15 years. It seems impossible really since I often still feel like a kid myself. Steven and I met in college, and within 5 months, we were man and wife. A year and a half later, we were parents. So I think it's fair to say we grew up together. Well, we're still growing up together.

I love to hear stories of how couples met, and I find each story fascinating. Love seems to find us all in different ways, at different times, and every couple shares the inevitably of ups and downs of a life shared together.

I could take my time to highlight problems you may or may not have encountered in your own relationship. I could try to pick out what I think a common struggle is and expound upon it. However, I think there is an easier way to hit it all. At the heart of every conflict is the desire to be seen, heard, and understood. Beyond that, we're all looking for a safe place to land. We all need that someone in our lives who will love us when we're mean and ugly and awful. We all need to know that when we show the very worst we have to offer, someone will still be there to love us.

Because don't we all have times of darkness? Don't we all fall down and skin our knees? Don't we all have moments when we fail hard? And don't we all know what it's like to be rejected after the dark side has been shown? After the temper flared? After the job lost? After words were uttered we can never take back?

Don't we all know the sting of conditional love?

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