Monday, August 12, 2013

Have a Tween? Have grace? Can you have both? and the Soli Deo Gloria Party

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I cannot believe I actually have one of them...my darling little daughter has morphed grown into a beautiful...tween.

And with larger shoes sizes, a yearning to wear make-up, and referring to her playdates as "hanging out," there has also come a certain je ne sais quois.

Yes, I do.  Larger opinions, a sharper tone, but also a heart thirsting, longing to know Jesus.

Who knew so many conflicting emotions and ideas could exist in one little body?

I think we all do on some level, but there is someone who actually wrote a book that helps tweens and their moms navigate some of these choppy tween waters and cultivate hearts of grace.

Sounds good, right?  Like there is an oasis on the horizon?  An answer to your SOS?

I don't know about you, but there are some days I think I have it figured out, and others, well, others where I post Facebook status updates like this:

I've decided my children don't listen to me because I talk too much. I hearby declare silence for the next 18 days until school starts. Who's with me?? Anyone?

In an effort to seize upon the goodness of her wanting to spend time with me and get to know God in a more personal way, we have begun Becoming a Girl of Grace.  It's a joint bible study for us to do together.  Each week, we study a girl of grace characteristic such as: love, faith, wisdom, humility, courage, witnessing, leadership, and accountability.

I don't know about you, but I could sure use some brushing up on some of these things.  You?

We've just started this bible study journey together, but I've already been amazed by my girl.  In the first chapter, author Catherine Bird tells us that we were created out of love for love.  Abby and I discuss one of the questions concerning creation:  Why do you think God chose to make Eve from one of Adam's ribs instead of  making her from dust as He made all the other creatures of the world?

And my wise one says this:  Because God wanted them to be from the same body and be the same heart.

After spending the last year writing a book about marriage, I think she just might have the right idea.  Two shall become one.  And I think about how my heart breaks when Craig's does and how he weeps with me when I am broken, too.  The same heart in so many ways.

This is foundational.  This is scriptural truth and real-life application.  This is me and my girl.  And it is good.

And so now, you totally want a copy.  Even if you don't want a copy, you want to give a copy to a mother/daughter team that could really use a book like this.  And right now, you're thinking If only there was a giveaway or something!

You are in luck, my friends!  Not only is Catherine giving away a copy of her bible study, but she's also including two sweet oilcloth bags.  A large one for mom.  A small one for daughter.  Great for make-up, pens, whatever!  They are just super cute, as you can see here:

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(Full disclosure here: Catherine is my sweet SIL.  But I would still write the very same thing even if I didn't know her at all!)
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18 comments :

  1. That sounds like a great book, Jen. What a blessing that your daughter has a mom like you to guide her through these upcoming years with the grace of Jesus.

    I'm currently reading "Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls" and wishing I had read it a few years ago (it's an older book). I don't know that it would have changed my parenting, but it might have given me a few more insights and thus allowed to me give a little more grace. Praying for your journey through these years!

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  2. That is some deep wisdom from your tween! I'd never thought about the rib quite like that, but she is exactly right. So glad you're getting to do that study together. One day maybe my son(s) and I will? That would be cool. Meanwhile, I'm glad to be back here with my SDG friends! Missed you all.

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  3. oh, this growing up. so wonderful and scary all at the same time.

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  4. My second daughter has turned thirteen this year as well...I am amazed at what a lovely young woman she is becoming and thankful God for the grace He has abundantly poured out in our lives. Having one daughter who recently turned eighteen I'm learning that all the blood sweat and tears you invest in raising them results in wonderful friendships.

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  5. Oy, I'm in the middle of tweendom myself...it's agonizing!! I have to beg God to give me wisdom, grace, and a TON of patience each day. I remember that age so well, so I'm trying to be sympathetic, but after the 3rd time trying to explain why they can or can't do something, or dealing with the latest drama, I'm tired. I love reading and doing devos with my girl, it's really the only time I know I'm connecting with her and having a heart to heart convo.

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  6. I love this. And I'm calling you when my girl is older. :)

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  7. What a great study! I'll be interested to hear how it goes, Jen.

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  8. Wow, this is wonderful! Keep us updated on how this study goes, Jen.

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  9. I am a new follower and a new blogger. I just linked up for the first time today! This Bible study sounds perfect for me and my tween daughter. There are so many obstacles for tween girls today. they have so many distractions from the world and are expected to accept the worldly opinions. I was not saved until I was 30, so parenting a Godly tween is tough for us. Thanks for the introduction to this study. Susan

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  10. One of the toughest parts of having a tween daughter for me is just letting her be different from me.... just letting her look at life differently and grow in her love for Jesus differently. And learning when to be quiet and when to speak. I'm with Jen- my kids listen less because I talk more. Gotta figure out how to change that! Can't wait to check out this study.

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  11. I'm thinking your sweet tween has a bit of her momma's insight. I loved the tween and teen years and watching my daughters grow in grace. Love the idea of a Bible study together.

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  12. This is wonderful for Mom and daughter to do together. As I just posted on Alicia B's post, I am still learning those vital things that Jesus has taught me! I wish that I could have had such when I was a tween with my Mom. The good thing is that she reminded me of my inner beauty often in her old age for which I am ever-grateful!
    Caring through Christ, ~ linda

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  13. Dear Jen,
    what an adorable photo of you and your tween...thanks for the review..I may have to check out the book and see if I can get our girl to do it with me :) what a wise insight, your girl had...one heart, yes :)

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  14. You are being led by the Lord and using excellent bible study materials to share together. Talking with your child and allow her to give her own thoughts is important too. Thanks for hosting your lovely site.

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  15. The book sounds like an excellent resource for moms and tween girls. What a wonderful way to focus on those very important characteristics before they head into those often difficult teen years!

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  16. You are investing well, my dear.

    Fondly,
    Glenda

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  17. My daughter has been asking for bible study. I would love this resource! I love how the answer your daughter shared about Eve being created from Adam's rib. My thought was....hmmm. I don't know. I love hearing their insights into things. I can learn so much from them. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  18. I think the hardest thing is that we are so much alike! LOL! We bump "heads" because we're so much alike. Thank you so much for this giveaway! :)

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