Monday, August 19, 2013

What happens when your post gets lost and the Soli Deo Gloria Party

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I had what I thought was a great post all about choosing to wear positive things such as love, compassion, grace, etc. instead of reaching for my sometimes-go-tos such as resentment, high expectations, judgement, and bitterness.

And then Blogger lost my post.

After frantically hitting "back" on my Internet browser, I sat back and chuckled.  Somebody might want to know if I actually, truly internalized what God was trying to teach me about choosing to wear His righteousness instead of my own fleshy nature.

I closed the laptop and made myself lunch.  And as I layered the spinach and mustard and other wrap-fixings, I thought back to the very heart of the Soli Deo Gloria Sisterhood.  Simply, it's a place where we don't have to be measured by the quality of our words.  It's about writing our authentic hearts, sharing our journey with other ladies, and being just who we are on any given day.

Suffice it to say, I'm not going to rewrite that post.  Instead, I'm just going to choose to count my loss a blessing because I lived out choosing righteousness (I didn't let it ruin my hour, my day, etc.  I didn't go into panic thinking about other things I still have to write and how I'm wasting time rewriting something I already did.) and I'm reflecting upon why God started this group in the first place.

And my heart beats full.

As someone who consistently feels the need to be perfect and to achieve and have everything be okay, I need to have a place where I can go to get out of that mindset.  And I want that place to be here.  I want to write what's on my heart and know that you'll love  me even if you don't leave with some nugget of wisdom or a challenge or a feel-good feeling.  Because life just doesn't always work that way.  And I want to write the way life works.  And I want you to have space to do that, too.  Not alone, but together, where we can encourage each other in our realness.  No judging, no assumptions, just an empathetic ear.

Last year as summer waned and fall ushered in new routines, we did a themed link-up for two weeks, just so we could get a snapshot of where everyone was and what everyone had been doing.  I'd like to bring back our "Summer Snapshot" and focus on one (or all) of these things: Renewal, Refreshment, and Release.
What about the summer brought about a release of things ready to be let go, or a vacation that evoked a sense of renewal, or how do you long to be refreshed as the summer winds down and fall begins? Choose one or many to write about during the next few weeks so we can get a glimpse of what God is doing in your life.
It could be you don't feel renewed or refreshed (ahem, I'm not mentioning any names, but ME) and so you want to write about your longings for this.  It could be you released your college freshman, but you didn't really want to do that because, well, letting go is HARD.  And it could be that yes, you are in the process of being renewed, but as the layers are stripped off, you don't feel so great at this moment.  Not yet, at least.

Or everything could be fabulous.  We want to rejoice with you, too.

I invite you on August 26th (my kids' first day of school!!) and/or September 2nd (my kids's first holiday from school!!) to write your heart and share it with us.

And please remember, your authenticity is valued.  Your words, imperfect or perfect, are valued.  You, my sweet friend, are valued.

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23 comments :

  1. You want to hear real? The mere thought of summer ending breaks my heart. Breaks. My. Heart. Sigh.

    I've been absent a lot from SDG (and from blog world in general) because I've been drinking in summer in huge gulps.

    And, sigh. Now I see chrysanthemums for sale. Hugs to you--for all your real-ness.

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    1. I'm glad you've been drinking in all that summery goodness, Nancy. And remember, if you need a fix in October or November, chances are, it will still be warm here!

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  2. Oh boy! First, don't even laugh, I used to teach a class in corporate fitness called, "Relax, Refresh and Renew". It sold out every time! My word for this year is Release. And as I sit here tonight shredding papers...I can't begin to tell you how lame I feel because of the things I hang onto...I know there is a lesson, and message right there. But I am so thick. Hope I hear it all clear for the 26th! You and the SDG group are a blessing to me. And honestly, Summer leaving is a sweet thing to me, since we live in the heart of tourism here in Narragansett! Selfish me, I want it all to myself...at least for Fall and Winter! Hugs, Jen! Oh, I will link up my 5mff post...it got bumped up to today instead of the 25th. Guess God just wanted it that way.

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    1. You know, Dawn, I find shredding papers to be so therapeutic! And there is a lesson, I'm sure. Sometimes we just have to shred the junk to be able to see it. But come, it will.

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  3. I hate when things like that happen, losing blog work or forgetting an appointment or having to redo something a gazillion times. But letting go...just the sound of that is freeing. So glad you were able to let go, Jen. Thanks for setting an example for the rest of us.

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    1. If I could only remember that letting go=freedom more often, Lisa!

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  4. Hi sweet Jen, I am struggling with the transition from summer to the busy fall. I sense fear in my heart, and I need to ask Him to help show me what it is. Thank you for your authenticity and beauty. Both. You are just stunning and a deep gulp of God's love for my heart. Thank you.

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  5. Jennifer, Jesus is doing the same thing in many places, I think. I got hit head on with life so NOT going the way I planned in the last 36 hours....you'll see what I mean when you read my post. So I sat down at the 11th hour last night and wrote my heart out...not the 11th hour really. But late. And it felt good.

    Soli Deo Gloria is a lifeline and I thank you for being the real-est leader of all.
    Love you!

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    1. It just warms my heart that this is a trusted place for you, Jody.

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  6. Ahhh, Jen -- the lost post! Maybe one day you'll rewrite? It sounds like what I need to hear. Now, I'm off to find just the right picture for next week!

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    1. I think I will rewrite for next week, since you asked. It's kind of about a refreshed perspective!

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  7. I guess I'd better not judge you for using mustard in a wrap (eeww!)
    Seriously, I agree with the others... your very real-ness is refreshing in itself! Love to you, my friend.
    By the way, "Renew, Refresh, Release" just might give me material for half a dozen posts.

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    1. What's wrong with mustard?? And glad I could spark some ideas! (But I'm really giving all the credit to the Holy Spirit!)

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  8. I love mustard and this post. :)

    I wrote about letting go this week....

    When I lose a post, I usually let out a big scream of anguish, and then Bruce brings me chocolate. This is why I love him. He knows my love language. :)

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  9. Your authenticity about losing your post (been there), frantically hitting "back" (been there, again) and then choosing righteousness - well, it is inspiring and refreshing. I'm afraid I have let such things ruin my day. What a relief to know that we don't have to be "perfect" here. What a great space you have created. I think God is continuing to smile :)

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  10. I so dislike when my post disappears. Grrr.
    However, I hadn't thought of it from your perspective. Thanks for that!
    I look forward to reading about everyone's summer. I don't know that I will be able to participate, since we are packing up our lives and will be headed for TN one week from today.

    Thanks for the reminder to look at loss as a blessing.

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  11. Murphy's Law tried to take over my week last week:( I'm learning to roll with things like losing a post, distractions causing muffins to burn, schedules tossed out the window when you don't have enough vacation days to do that - and finding Him in the moment. I am looking forward to your hosting refreshing and renewal:) It has been a renewal summer, despite all the broken bones:) Blessings this week - and much grace!
    Maryleigh

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  12. I had that lost post thing happen to me just a few weeks ago. Not fun and I'm afraid I didn't handle it as well as you did. My summer was so full of good things -- God things. But, even knowing they were given by God didn't keep me from feeling overwhelmed at times. Sick-in-my-stomach overwhelmed. So thankful God is in it all. I asked Him today to give me organization in my head and heart to accomplish His will--and the help to keep my hands out of what isn't His. Sometimes that "no" word trips me up!

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  13. i need this quote hanging in my closet.....looking forward to writing to the prompt for next week....i love a good reflection piece....thanks for always being so welcoming :)

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  14. And, yet, you still turned out a wonderful, encouraging, honest piece! Thanks for your transparency here. Like another commenter, I have been largely absent online these summer months with trips and projects and three kids at home. While I'm sad summer has gone, we are all ready for some routine again.

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  15. God's plans are always better than ours! Thanks for the great post & for hosting & God bless!

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  16. you post is so refreshing thank you... I was just thinking I feel as though I have little to give the blogging world, but I'm reminded that it really just about sharing the journey!

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