Friday, October 4, 2013

FMF: Write

I think we've been hindered, people.

Some of our stories haven't made their way to the light of days because of the pressure we feel to say them in just the right way.

I've been guilty of making sure my grief hits just the right somber note.

I've been guilty of trying to be funny.

I've been guilty of writing in a style that just wasn't quite my own.

And I've done it because I wanted you to like me and read me, not because I was trying to honor my story.

My God-given story.

As Emily puts it, it can be a blog-eat-blog world out there.  But what if we get back to the point -- we write to share.  And there is a craft involved, yes.  There is an art to playing with words and stringing them in sentences.  There is beauty in lines and gut-wrenching emotion constructed as we spill out into words what God has stirred in our hearts.

But so often, in the back of my mind lingers this darkness...

Did I tell it well enough?
Did I use the right hook?
Is it too long? Too short?  Too full?  Too empty?
Witty enough?  Soft enough?  Evoking enough?

At the end of the day, have I become just as critical of my writing as I can be with my body?

Have I made this space just another thing to dress up in fashionable clothes, curl into cute ringlets, and apply sparkly make-up?  Have a I turned blogging into a Barbie?

If I showed up in my bare bones or ragged clothing because that is all I could muster that day, would it be okay?

Yes.  And why?

Even if it isn't enough to face the world, it's enough to face God.  Because He is in our words.  He is in our souls.  He is in our stories.  And wherever He is, there is light, shining brightly, touching hearts and lives and souls.

When we write, no matter what we might say, as long as He is in our words, our write is enough.

Don't let anything else tell you differently, my friend.  Let's run, unhindered. 

I'm hanging out with Lisa-Jo this morning.  Want in?  Here's the deal:

1. Write for 5 minutes flat – no editing, no over thinking, no backtracking.
2. Link back here and invite others to join in.
3. And then absolutely, no ifs, ands or buts about it, you need to visit the person who linked up before you & encourage them in their comments. Seriously. That is, like, the rule. And the fun. And the heart of this community..

photo credit: deborah is lola via photopin cc (Words & edits added by Jen)


  1. Great words and thoughts. I like your blog. I am stopping by from FMF. Patti

  2. Food for thought, Jen — the Barbie reference and everything! "Our write is enough" in a world that often pressures you to feel otherwise. Thank you for your words today!

    Christy @ A Heartening Life

  3. Hi Jen! I was just thinking about this, and I wondered if I am too 'heavy' on blog writing sometimes. But you have given me some support here. If it's on my heart, then that's what I should be writing.

    It's good to do some critical thinking like this. It will keep you (and me) more honest! Great reflection today, Jen.

  4. So many good thoughts on FMF today on the importance of being honest and real in blogging, and not comparing our words to others. Thank you for this: "as long as He is in our words". Remembering with you that our stories are always worth sharing!

  5. So good, Jen. Barbies we do NOT need. Real women moving forward? A great big yes!

  6. Wow! "Barbie blogging" is such a great image and reminder for me to stay true to myself. Thanks!! :-)

  7. Oh my! "When we write, no matter what we might say, as long as He is in our words, our write is enough." Amen! This is was so good Jen. Blessings to you.

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  9. What a good post!! This really resonates with me, the whole 'did I tell it JUST right?' trap. Ugh. Beautiful words, thankyou for sharing.


  10. But I love that Barbie! But not a Barbie blog, I suppose...praying we rest and relax in His presence that grace might find us and lead us to the write you and these thoughts, Jen. I am all posted out with my 31 days so skipping the 5 minute write this week...but what a great word. Perhaps I will write in my journal all of my ramblings on finding the write words...or freedom from it!

  11. Oh that 'raw' side of us is soooooo hard to just put it all out there. Always worried it will offend. Sometimes I'd like to put an annonymous blog out there and let it all hang, but then that isn't truthful either.

    THis is a hard one. But, those that do 'put it out there' I respect and read.

  12. You are the second person this week to write about using your own, authentic voice. And the second person was not even doing the Five Minute Friday! In his sermons my husband always described the word "perfect" from the biblical point of view like this: "if you have a pen, it is designed to write. If it is ugly, chewed up or broken, but it still writes, then it is perfect because it is doing what it was designed to do. Perfect does not mean flawless. It means being used for the purpose God intended." So we write because that is what He intended us to do. In our own voice :)

  13. I had to laugh at the title of your post! My name is Barbie, but I don't need a "Barbie" blog! God created me to be me, unique, loved, broken and poured out for His glory. Sometimes I look at what others are doing, and think I should be doing it like them. I am realizing more and more that my voice is needed, MY voice, not a copy cat one!

  14. that barbie doll is terrifying!
    as to being real...just visit my blog and do a search for "Dave". since he died, I've had people write me and tell me, "it's been X number of months, don't you think you should just get over it" and "you're a prickly person" (I thought, sister, you have NO idea what a megabomb I can be so don't push any harder) and other snide little comments. and all from women who were snugged up against their husbands that night in bed.
    time wounds all heels.
    just a few weeks ago, I told a woman I would have killed myself 5 months after Dave died, had God not stayed my hand. she screamed at me but, Jen, people NEED to know how hard it is. people need to know it's okay to "not get over it". people need to know their grief takes as long as it takes. there's no time table, no schedule and no one can tell or judge. no one.
    there's a reason, days past, folks were expected to take a year for major life events...marriage, birth, death. these are emotional, highly charged life events and now, we just act like "no big deal". well, it is a VERY BIG DEAL. all of them and if we don't take time to, properly, address each one, we're simply a time bomb and emotions will out, one way or another. to be sure.

  15. This is one of the hard things when it comes to writing and pretty much life. Being real and not getting sucked into being what we think we "should" be for others is an easy trap to fall in and one I catch myself falling into every so often. And wow! I don't think I've ever seen such a high end looking Barbie!

  16. Amen!! You have hit the nail right on the head, my head! I so want to write rightly. I find that when I feel pressured to write and put words down, they often are just that...words. Unless, in the midst of that kind of "writing," really just typing, God takes over and writes, then those words do not speak for God. They are just words. BUT, when I write when God lays something on my heart and I pursue Him, then I type His words to the best of my ability. Thank you for this fine reminder. Caring through Christ, ~ linda


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