Friday, January 31, 2014

FMF: Hero

I really don't want to sound cheesy, but the facts are plain:

My husband is my hero.

Don't get me wrong -- he is far from perfect, just like me.  But he is brave.  And he knows I am often, well, not.  And so when I hear God say "take a risk," he's all in, even when it becomes a bigger risk for him than it is for me.

In April 2012, I was offered a scholarship to go to the Speak Up Conference the following June.  But I felt if I went, I should do the writing track.  And if I did the writing track, well, I should meet with a publisher.  And if I was going to meet with a publisher, it might be a very good idea to have a book proposal.

But the only thing I had worth writing about was my journey through my husband's porn addiction.  And I didn't want it to be this one-sided picture of lament and healing.

And so, I asked him to write it with me.

And he said, Yes.

Almost two years later, our book will be coming out in October 2014.  

A hero doesn't have to look perfect on the outside and doesn't have to convince people that he's perfect on the inside.  A hero is just someone who takes a risk, who sacrifices himself for another.

And that is who he is.

I'm hanging out with Lisa-Jo this morning.  Want in?  Here's the deal:

1. Write for 5 minutes flat – no editing, no over thinking, no backtracking.
2. Link back here and invite others to join in.
3. And then absolutely, no ifs, ands or buts about it, you need to visit the person who linked up before you & encourage them in their comments. Seriously. That is, like, the rule. And the fun. And the heart of this community..


  1. Wow! My husband is also my hero but I don't know that he would be strong and/or brave enough to open up about an addiction such as this. Bravo to your husband and you for sharing, what I am sure, was a difficult journey.

  2. How exciting for both of you to have taken that risk together. I can see why your husband is your hero.

  3. Hats off to hubby for "coming out" and sharing with the world and bows and curtsies to you, sister, for living through it with victory. Wow.....

  4. Thank you, Jen. You make it so easy to love you. You know, I don't always feel like a hero, but reading this reminds me that you look for the best in me. You draw it out. You make me a better man. You will always be worth any risk. See. I do read your posts. ;)

  5. Jen, I just know that your book,the risk both Craig and you took,will encourage others! I am so happy for you. Congratulations and may God continue to strengthen you both through the journey. Hugs.

  6. Y'all are too cute. :) I've loved watching God's plans unfold. Can't wait to hold your book in my hands this fall. Yay God! Yay you two for both being brave!!!!

  7. Way to go Craig - I'm so proud of you....and for you! I'm sure it wasn't easy. My brother-in-law is struggling with the same addiction, although he doesn't see it that way; however, it was one of the many reasons his marriage ended. High-five to you - and to Jen for hanging in there!

  8. Wow, you two are brave. Let the healing begin!

  9. That comment from your hubbie has me tearing up. I'm excited for the two of you with this book! What a wonderful thing to do together. Praying for that journey, friend.

  10. super cool, super encouraging.....the Lord will use anything for his glory....marriage, book, etc....

  11. Aren't husband wonderful!! And congrats on your gook.

  12. My husband is my hero, too - we are blessed, aren't we!


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