I often think of risks in terms of what I have to lose or what I have to gain. It's a weighing game played on mental scales and most of these scales are only weighing things directly related to me.
It seems as I can be a bit egocentric at times. You?
I think back to my original risk two weeks ago, how in those 20 seconds I was able to momentarily cease thoughts about me and entertain the needs of the person in front of me. But in that circumstance, the Holy Spirit caught me off-guard. I didn't have time to weigh every measure. I couldn't overthink the situation. I couldn't make the list of pros and cons.
But what if the thing that finally propels us has nothing to do with us? What if we were to turn our risk around and see it in a different light? What if we made our risk not about what we might lose, but about what someone else might gain?
It's no secret that our behaviors can have a ripple effect on the people around us, those known and unknown, those who lie in our beds or pass us on the streets. So I wonder why I always dedicate so much more thought to how the risk is going to effect me rather than those around me? Obviously, because I've learned the art of self-protection. But, I have an interest in shedding that layer. I have an interest in becoming less like me and more like Christ. And to allow that transformation, I must attempt to see things as He does.
Take Jia Jiang (the whole reason this thing started). He risked rejection by walking into a doughnut shop, asking them to make doughnuts in the shape of the Olympic rings. He expected to be told something like, "Um, sir, I don't really know what you're talking about. We don't do that kind of thing here." (I imagine this said in a snooty voice.) Instead, he got exactly what he ordered. Don't believe me? Watch below:
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So Jia Jiang was pleasantly surprised. His risk was rewarded with inventive Krispy Kreme doughnuts. But who else was blessed by this whole experience?
Jackie, the girl who was handed the challenge and rose to the task. What did Jackie get?
- High praise from Jia Jiang.
- National (global?) recognition for rising to the challenge in newspapers and blogs around the world.
- Declared one of 8 ordinary people who did amazing things in 2012
- 4,296 likes on a Facebook page Jia Jiang created for her called "Give Jackie a Raise"
- Mention in Business Week
- Appearance on Jeff Probst's television show (the Survivor host!)
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Jia Jiang's risk changed Jackie's life. I bet he never thought about her before he walked into that doughnut shop. But it sure is proof that our willingness to risk our own failure can lead to someone else's amazing success. A success that was totally unimagined, a complete blessing, unmistakably a way they could use their God-given creativity and talent.
It's not always just about us. Your risk is not just about you.
Hear me: I am not saying take the risk because of someone else. I'm saying that seeing beyond yourself can give you a new perspective. It can give you a boost of confidence. It can help you see just how this all might be worth it in the end. It might be the one thing that gets you off the well-worn path you've seen as both frustrating, but also...safe.
There's no way Craig and I would be writing this book about our journey through his porn addiction if it wasn't for the *possibility* that God could use our story to bring hope to someone else. All those "someone elses" were what propelled us to go through this (very painful and hard) process.
Well, them...and God.
Have you risked rejection and then seen how it has positively impacted others around you? Or can you see how taking your risk might positively impact someone else?
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